Spit it out

More often than not, we dont say what we really want to say. How many times have you tried to tell someone something and stopped because you couldn't find the right words? I find people are constantly struggle to find the "right" words, the "perfect" words, the ideal, thought-out way to say EXACTLY what they're thinking.

The right words according to whom? Who is this person, and why do we think they are constantly judging us? I'm not sure, but it seems as though somewhere there's a universal measure of words and thoughts. Anything that even approaches the extreme limits of what is considered ordinary is quickly dismissed as misplaced thoughts and useless ramblings. They are then categorized as no good to anyone.

And the result?

We end up saying nothing at all.

Now, in my opinion saying something, even if it isn't the perfect something, is better than saying nothing. You have far more to lose by keeping your mouth shut. Think of all the unsaid meaning, insights to your emotions and valuable "connecting time" you are missing out on. Why? Because you couldn't think of the right freaking word?

They are just words. And what you have to say is important. (Stop trying to tell yourself it's not. We should be past that already.) So, why ax the first draft before it even has a chance of being heard.

Ahh. The first draft. The initial reaction and feeling. They are words that come from your gut and your heart, unedited by your stupid mind that can suck meaning right out of thought. The first draft of any thought or feeling contains a lot of valuable, rawness that sometimes goes away when you over think what you're trying to say. It is possible to think too much. Coming from a girl who thinks way too much, I would know. The hardest thing to do is be willing to just let it fly, first time, no regrets.

And if they love you, if they care about you at all, they will appreciate what you have to say. They will cherish your insight and more importantly, I bet they'll even "get" what you were trying to say. I shit you not. They'll get it. And if they don't...screw them. At least your tried.